Hold up your hand if any of the following scenarios best describes your situation. Scenario 1 - You have been with man for ten years (or more) and you have a child or children with him but he has never indicated to you that he intends to marry you and when you bring up the topic he gets upset and is quite abusive. Scenario 2 - You are in a relationship but you and your partner have very little in common and you both engage in more verbal exchanges rather than loving discourse. Scenario 3 - The relationship you are in involves sex, sex and nothing but sex.